Oct 14, 2010

My Creative Space: offensive language may offend

It is with a heavy heart today that I write. A friend has cancer, and I am scared. I am scared for her beautiful sister and her partner both of whom I love so much, I am scared for her beautiful children, I am scared for her loving partner and for her family and friends. She is on the other side of the world and I feel so helpless.

She has such a black sense of humour, and I didn't know what else to do. My first thought being  "make something." I made her this cross stitch and ordered some books about cancer for the children too...  it is so hard to avoid cliches... and I can't write anymore today. Just that she is so funny and the thought of her always makes me laugh.

I am selling the pattern to the above cross stitch  here and donating all the money to the Cancer Council.
More Creative Spaces here, and my apologies to the amazing hostess Kirsty for lowering the mood for a moment. xx


44 comments:

  1. That is an awesome gift Cath and I'm sure your friend will love that you are both thinking of her and making her laugh. And I love that you have made it even more special by selling the pattern to raise funds for Cancer Research. You're a great mate. Big hugs. x

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  2. it's true...it does.

    love to you cath & to your friend & her family. x

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  3. What a true friend you are. That will surely make her smile. xxxxOOOO

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  4. LOVE IT!!! Cancer does fucking suck!!! What and awesome thing to do, sometimes the only thing you can do is have a little black humour!
    x

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  5. So sorry to hear about your friend. Awesome gesture you are doing with the donation.

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  6. Well said! Hang in there, Cath...

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  7. So so sorry! I'm sure your friend will appreciate that you are thinking of her and her family. xx

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  8. I totally agree cancer does soooo suck! Sending positive thoughts, prayers etc to you and your friend.

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  9. Cancer does indeed fucking suck. We know it too well. Hoping for you and your friend.

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  10. Yes, it does suck.. and sometimes there are days when your embroidered sentiment is all that feels appropriate. I think you're friend will love it. It will give her a chuckle and help put her in defence mode. Laughter and your love will help lots.

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  11. it does suck & there isn't anything anyone can say to make you feel better.
    well done on releasing the anger into creativity.
    Something I definitely need to do.
    thanks for the warning...♥

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  12. I am sorry to hear about your friend. Cancer really does fucking suck! I usually say, "I fucking hate cancer".

    Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

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  13. Its brillinat!
    It does and I think you are ace for not hiding behind that fact. Hope you sell a gazillion. X

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  14. Hey, you are an ace mate for doing this for your friend. Horrible disease but sometimes it does bring out the best in all of us. I wish your friend all the best for her recovery xox

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  15. So impressed! This is so awesome! xxxx hugs for you and your friend

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  16. Swear all you want Cath!

    I love the idea of buying the kids some special books! Where did you get them?

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  17. It does suck, my dad was diagnosed last year and he lives in NZ so I feel totally useless and sad leaving my mum to do everything.

    Hugs and if you ever need to talk I am an email away :)

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  18. sorry to hear about your mate, I hope she is ok. You sound like the best kind of friend, one who cares & loves and does what they can. Thinking of you, & her x

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  19. This is awesome Cath, and can I say, you may feel helpless but I'm going to send this pattern on to my friend who is supporting her 2 year-old through leukaemia, and it will bring her so much joy, I know it. So THANK YOU. You did good Cath - and all my love and best to your friend.

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  20. ps- you know the pattern isn't there ye

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  21. It's brilliant Cath!! And I think she will love it.
    Often it's better to be right up front with things too xo

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  22. Oh Cath that's a fab gift! Now Darling you have to up the mood, think positive, send her all the positivity you're able, along with as many belly laughs you can muster!
    I know it's hard but she needs to not expell too much energy holding up those who love her, which inevitably happens in these situations. She's so blessed to have you, please stay strong, you're a sweetheart for sure. xo.

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  23. Yep I agree. It does suck. I think she'll love your gift. Kx

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  24. Cancer is a bitch! Thinking of you, your friend and her family. I am sure she will appreciate the gift

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  25. not a shadow of a lie there, cancer does fucking suck!
    i truly hope that your friend is ok and i'm sure this cross-stitch piece will bring her strength and a big cheesy grin.

    you're wonderful for donating the pattern funds too!
    feel better soon too!
    xox

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  26. Is 'cancer' the offensive language you are referring to?

    Oh my dear, it is a brutal thing. Love and hope to your friends and to you.

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  27. Yup, it bloody well does. Hope this gives her a laugh and also that you raise a small fortune!! Good on you for being so honest and real about it. Xxoo best wishes of full turn around recovery for your friend...

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  28. It's exactly true. It sucks the big one. ((((many hugs))))

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  29. you have summed it up really well! I'm sorry to hear about your friend. may peace be with you and your friend and her family xx

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  30. Oh crap, it really does suck... things like this just leave me speechless.

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  31. Truer words have never been said. It really does suck and touches way too many lives. Best wishes to your friend and her family.

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  32. Truer words were never stitched. Wish her all the best.

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  33. i love a tag that says offensive language inside! What a treat to find this.

    And yep - it is too true and too simple.

    well done for putting in into words to stick around

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  34. Love that!

    Happy Blogtoberfest! I am on a mission to comment and follow all the blogs in Blogtoberfest! Maybe you could comment and follow me as well! Cheers!

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  35. yep, just adding my thoughts to everyone elses. I am in a similar situation- our friends made a quilt, not one swear word in site- I think my friend with cancer would love this!

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  36. i think you are doing a big thing right there. so sorry to hear this, we as a family and friends have been touched by it far too much ~ and it does suck

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  37. It really does suck and I'm so sorry to hear about your friend. Lots of love to you, to her and her family.

    I saw a piece while my husband was going through treatment that said "fuck off cancer" and it's something we would have certainly hung in our home.

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  38. Yep it does suck and it comes from nowhere is completely undiscriminating and the road ahead is long and painful and tough and that sucks too.
    My gorgeous sister has just been through a year from hell ... but she's here and we're so thankful. She started chemo on her baby's first birthday. That little girl is now two and her mummy is clear of stuff that sucks!
    Sending good thoughts to you and your friend and her family.

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  39. ... it so totally does... fucking sux.

    Great gift.

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